Some consider it the great philosophical quagmire of the modern age, and, at the very least, it is a question that has fueled the romantic comedy genre for the last 20 years: The pop cultural examples are endless, and the consensus seems to be pretty straightforward: It either ends in romance or heartbreak.
But several studies over the last decade, many of which have been highlighted in a recent article in Scientific AmericanW/msle a different picture as to the long-term viability of men and women as friends. The very idea of men and women uniting in platonic relationships is actually a relatively recent one.
But all that has changed.
As recently asa study showed that 18 frined year-olds were four times more likely to have opposite sex friends as year-olds. Rather than the exception, opposite sex friendships have moved closer to becoming the rule.
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The problem, of course, the one constantly examined by all of those rom-coms, is that male-female friendships tend to loojing feelings of romantic or physical attraction.
According to a study by Heidi Reeder, a communications professor at Boise State, there are four different types of attractions that can arise between friends:.
fof Nearly everyone in the study reported feeling "friendship attraction," pretty much the same thing guy friends would feel towards each other. Which is the part that Hollywood has been milking as some big crisis for decades.
Here are six reasons why:. According to Geoffrey Greif, a professor of social work at the University of Maryland, "the stress and uncertainty that romantic attraction brings to burgeoning friendships are not altogether different from the stress and uncertainty of any developing relationship.
According to Reeder, despite the awkwardness, having a friend who is attracted to you can be beneficial.Boston Womens Looking For Sex
Both men and women report turning to their opposite-sex friends in order to get advice on, well, the opposite sex. Who better to speak the language of girl crazy than your friend who is a girl, and thus is crazy. Having any sort of close friend is not just good for your emotional health, it is also good for your physical health.
LpokingJulianne Holt-Lunstad of BYU found that having few friends is the mortality risk equivalent of smoking 15 cigarettes a day. So while yes, friendship with a girl could eventually lead to you pining away for what will never be, lost in a cloud of pain, whiskey, and bad poetry.
But scientific evidence shows that it is actually worth the risk.
So fear not men, Wm/ale you can finally embrace your lady friends, both literally and figuratively. According to a study by Heidi Reeder, a communications professor at Boise State, there are four different types of attractions that can arise between friends: Here are six reasons why: